Do you treat yourself in exchange for recognition?
Do you treat yourself in exchange for recognition? Perhaps unconsciously, moreover. He’s one of the five drivers. Lynda Pausé, personal development coach, explains the drivers. These are binding messages. They are worn by our parents and end up being engraved in us. Obviously, we are all held back or at least conditioned by a few dominant drivers. They constitute our personality.
Focus on the second pilot: have fun. His promise is simple: if I make everyone happy, then I will get recognition.
I am a good person when I put others before my own needs. This person is afraid of rejection or embarrassment. So she says yes to everything and doesn’t know where to turn.
Unconsciously, the person seeks to seduce in order to retain love and recognition. So she has rather superficial relationships.
She over-adapts and ends up devaluing herself, even devaluing others.
Lynda’s tips for making it fun
first, to get rid of this need to always please, set your limits. Dare to say no. already to please you first.
Give exactly what you are asked for: no more. Don’t go sacrificing yourself.
Finally, be authentic and true! Stop being nice and let go of seduction. You have the right not to please everyone. It helps you stop seeking approval from others.
Ideal for boosting your esteem.